Last fall my sister and I were away for a very rare sister’s getaway. We stayed in BC at a lovely AirBnB, enjoying gorgeous scenery, the beach and walking trails.
As she was cleaning the dishes one night she set some medication of mine on top of the toaster oven. These were very expensive meds which needed to be stored at room temperature or in the refrigerator.
WHAT DID I DO?
Early the next morning she made toast for breakfast. Upon pulling her toast out she saw the meds and thought, ‘Oh goodness. Holy heck. What did I do?’
She quickly grabbed the meds, felt them and sure enough, they were hot. She knew immediately they were ruined.
At that moment she had two choices; she could pretend like nothing happened and carry on with her day. Or she could confess the accident knowing there was a very good chance I’d be disappointed.
Thankfully she was bold and honest enough to say, “Umm Kris. Something really bad just happened. I was making toast and I’m pretty sure I ruined your meds.”
Accidents are horrible, aren’t they? They happen without warning. An accident is defined as an unfortunate incident that happens unexpectedly and unintentionally, resulting in damage or injury.
Now I don’t know how you’d respond to news like this, but somehow I simply said, “Ok it’s all good. Let me see how warm they are, maybe they’re ok.”
Immediately I realized they were about as warm as my hot baths.
Insert the only response available to me that moment.
Grace is the love and mercy given to us by God. God desires us to experience his love and mercy, not necessarily because we’ve done anything to earn it. In fact, grace cannot be earned or deserved because if it was, it would no longer be grace at all.
Grace is God’s free gift to us. It’s his unmerited, underserved favor given out of his unconditional love for us.
When we have a radical understanding of how much we are loved and accepted we can give this same love and acceptance to others freely, generously, unexpectedly and undeservedly.
I did not know I had that kind of grace in me until it flowed out of me. I shocked myself by saying, “It’s ok. Accidents happen. This will make for an interesting article one day. $400 Toast.” And I really meant it.
My sister was on a tight budget that trip. I knew she did not have the money to pay for the $400 loss. And even if she did I would’ve lost the most valuable gift I could’ve shared with her, unconditional love and acceptance.
HOW MUCH MORE
I discovered at that moment how much more I cared about her heart and knowing she was completely loved and accepted than I cared about the loss. She already felt bad enough, I really did not need her to feel worse. I wanted nothing more than for her to know I could’ve easily made a similar, if not the same mistake.
For those of us who’d consider ourselves to be followers of Jesus, we find a divine calling in the book of Ephesians.
‘With tender humility and quiet patience, always demonstrate gentleness and generous love toward one another, especially toward those who may try your patience. Be kind and affectionate toward one another. Has God graciously forgiven you? Then graciously forgive one another in the depths of Christ’s love.’
(Eph. 4:2,32 TPT)
IN US TO GIVE
We all have faults. We all make mistakes. We have also all received a supernatural grace that covers every single one of our mistakes, accidents and failings. Because we have so freely been forgiven by God’s love and grace, it is in us to give to others too.
In the same way, she had a choice to tell the truth that day, I could choose to graciously love and forgive.
It is only because of God’s love for me can that I can love others in the same way I’ve been loved. Without his love reflecting through me, my response would’ve been very different. Grace isn’t always my first response, however on that day, I am grateful God showed me just how powerful it can be.
His love; freely given, so that we can freely and generously love others.
It’s in you to give!
In faith and health,