Three Keys

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To pursue means to find, follow or engage in something. I am wired to pursue performance and success. These bring a tremendous sense of accomplishment. I am a task driven person. I love to check things off my list.  When I have a GREAT day, it’s because I get A LOT done! 

The challenge with personalities like mine is that we can leave people behind. When we pursue productivity and success, we can find ourselves lonely and disconnected. Our pursuit is towards something we love, but it does not have the power to love us back. To live a full and purpose driven life, we must pursue these three key areas.   

 deep relationship

We long to belong. We feel safe, comforted, confident and secure when we are in close relationship. This is especially true when raising children. When we pursue our children, we win their heart. When we have their heart, they won’t so easily give it away to other people who can hurt them.

Will they still get hurt? Of course. It just won’t hurt as much when they have a safe, connected and loving relationships to come home to. 

I’ve recently discovered when I don’t pursue my oldest daughter she’s easily pulled to pursue less healthy, potentially even harmful relationships. One of our greatest human needs is to belong. When our children don’t feel this sense of belonging at home they will seek it elsewhere.

If you’re a parent you must pursue your children, especially before and during teen years. Walk with them. Talk with them. Take them for dinner or coffee. Take them for a mountain getaway.  

If you’re married, pursue your spouse. Too often people divorce not because of a major incident, but because little by little they grew apart. Each person neglected pursuing each other. 

Pursue friendship. Pursue people with similar interests as you. One of my favourite trips every year is a girl’s hiking trip. A group of friends and I take a few days in the mountains exploring and enjoying time together. It is such a refreshing and invigorating time away together. 

 Health

3John 1:2 says ‘Beloved friend I pray that you may be in good health and that all may go well with you, as your soul is getting along well.’ When your mind and body are healthy, so is the innermost part of you; your soul. 

 We all have enough time for the things we prioritize. If you don’t have time to exercise, shop for groceries and make homemade meals, the reason is simple. It’s not a high enough priority.

We all have the same amount of time. What you prioritize determines what you have time for.  Your health must be a priority. Caring for your health improves your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing. 

For those of you who are married and say, “It’s fine,. I can let myself go.” Is that really how you want to show up for your spouse? Do you want your kids to let go of showing up for high school because they have no plans for university? Of course not. The same is true in marriage. It matters!

Your nutrition affects your mood and how you respond to one another. It affects your energy, sleep, productivity, connection, and intimacy! You need your spouse.  And he or she needs you. Together. In conversation. Connection. Fun. And intimacy. 

Faith

Faith is an expression of hope, believing in something greater to come. Faith cannot be explained through logic or reasoning. It often does not make sense to have incredible hope amidst hard circumstances. Jesus himself said, “In this world you will have trouble and hardship.”

In the book of Isaiah God didn’t say, “IF you go through deep waters and IF you face difficulty.” Rather, he said, “WHEN you go through deep waters, I will be with you. WHEN you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown…”

 A few Saturdays ago, it was terribly foggy out. As I was driving I could not see beyond 20ft ahead of me. I knew I was safe based on what I could see. And I could trust that which I could not yet see would still be safe and clear when I got there.

Having faith is a lot like driving in fog. It’s is a confident assurance for the things we hope for, however cannot yet see. Faith offers unexplainable peace during heartbreak.  It gives purpose in our pain. Faith offers trust in a greater plan when things don’t work out as we thought they would.  

These areas sound simple. When weaving them into each day it becomes more complex because you also have other urgent demands pulling at you. If you desire to pursue these areas, however aren’t sure how to get started, contact Kristine today! 

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Committed to you!

Kristine Rustand

Master Health Coach, EmpowerWays

 

Kristine Rustand is a Master Health Coach with EmpowerWays. You can follow EmpowerWays on Facebook and Instagram. If you want to know how Health Coaching can help you lose weight, feel great and love the skin you’re in, contact Kristine today. EmpowerWays@gmail.com