When you ask a child to do something you generally get one of two responses:

‘Whhhyyyy?’ or ‘Do I haaavvvveee to?’

As a parent “because I said so” ought to be a sufficient response, however it’s unlikely to empower enough motivation for them to follow through. 

All for fun

When I ask my youngest daughter to clean something, she ‘forgets’ virtually every time. However, when I ask her if she wants to play volleyball she could do it all night, every night. At eleven years old, her motivation is all about fun. Cleaning = NOT fun. Volleyball = MOST fun ever! 

If you’re like my daughter and love ‘fun’ following a healthy, balanced diet might not sound too fun. You’ve got to budget, meal plan, shop for groceries (with kids in tow), prepare a healthy meal, fight with your kids to eat the meal, clean up, just to do it all over again the next day. If you’re like me, you prep multiple meals to save you time. This might mean 2-3 hours in the kitchen 1-2 times a week. It takes a ton of discipline, planning and organization to follow through. Sound like fun? Probably not. 

Eating out and having dessert? Now that’s more FUN! 

What’s the why…?

What’s your motivation? What’s the WHY behind why you do what you do?

In ANY area of your life that’s either working well or not working at all, there is an underlying motivation that drives your decisions. 

I want to feel great. I want to feel confident and beautiful. I want to help others discover their worth and value. I want to be productive. I love raw, authentic connection and community. I want to be the best mom for my daughters and I desire to have a great marriage. I want to believe that ‘until death do us part’ really can be for us. I love to serve and to empower others. I love church! I love feeling unstoppable!

These are my WHYS behind why I do what I do. They’re the reason I wake up at obscene hours to read and workout and prepare breakfast for my family. They’re why I’m a health and life coach. They’re why I will go all day with hardly any rest. They’re also the reason I crash hard at 9/930pm. I am finished! 

What’s your motivation? What’s the WHY behind why you do what you do?

identity issues

For most of my upbringing and early adult years I didn’t feel great. I didn’t feel confident and beautiful. I certainly didn’t know how to help others discover their worth and value simply because I didn’t know my own. I constantly compared my inner world to people’s outer world, all of whom I was sure were more beautiful, slimmer and successful than I was.

My identity was caught up in my body. I literally battled identity issues every single day because I attached how great I felt to how successful and beautiful I was. These two areas determined virtually every ounce of my worth and value. 

When I felt bad, I ate bad. Sometimes I ate and ate just to prove how bad I really could be. Other times it was because I wanted to feel good even if it was only for a moment. Food did that for me. It helped me feel good. But then it made me feel worse.

Food for me was like a woman who kept going back to an abusive relationship. Though it hurts, there is safety and comfort knowing something (or someone) is still there for you to go to. 

are you, do you

What’s your motivation? What’s the WHY behind why you do what you do?

Are you someone who wants to start a healthy meal plan and get active this spring? Do you want to lose 20lbs for the summer? If so, why? 

Do you cycle between starting a nutrition plan really well, only to sabotage later? If so, what’s the WHY behind why you do what you do?

Is food a social factor for you? Do you rely on food and drinks to connect you socially with others? 

Do you fear what others might think of you if you say ‘no thank you’ to wine and appies? 

Is the buffet table a safety mechanism at large gatherings? Consider this, when you don’t have someone to talk to isn’t it easy to be like, ‘Oh I’m just going to grab some food’ rather than stand alone, possibly shy or embarrassed that everyone else is talking and you don’t have anyone to talk to?

Are you a performance junkie and the only area you let yourself go is with food? 

Do you often experience guilt, only to find yourself ‘eating your guilt’?

Is your main priority behind healthy eating to see a specific number on a scale? Do you get frustrated and give up when results aren’t showing up fast enough? 

Do you not let yourself slow down to enjoy the sweetness of life so you seek the sweet, satisfying pleasure of chocolate? 

Are you overwhelmed? Frustrated? Anxious? Do you use food to calm the inner angst you don’t want to feel anymore?

Do you care too much about the details of your day and just need something to not care about? 

Are you disconnected from your family? Feeling bad about how little time you’ve had together? A date at Dairy Queen offers the ‘perfect solution’, connection with the kids alongside a delicious Reece Outrageous! 

Do the extra layers on your body ‘protect’ you from people who’ve previously hurt you?

If you’ve lost and gained weight or yo-yo dieted, it’s very likely you can relate to at least 1 or 2 of these WHYS behind why you do what you do.

an invitation

If you want to discover lasting health and weight loss success, talk to us about our Health and Weight Loss programs. As you discover your why, you become more empowered and equipped to make healthier choices so that you can lose weight, feel great and love the skin you’re in. 

Our Spring Health and Weight Loss programs have just begun. You can jump in today! 

Committed to you!

Kristine Rustand

Master Health Coach, EmpowerWays


Kristine Rustand is a Master Health Coach with EmpowerWays. Everything we do is about empowering you to live a healthier, happier life. You can follow EmpowerWays on Facebook and Instagram. If you want to know how Health Coaching can help you live a healthier, happier life contact Kristine today. EmpowerWays@gmail.com